This is my family, well minus Daddy who is taking the picture. I brought 4 kids to this marriage and my husband brought 2 but for us, we have 6 children. It's funny really because when I was a little girl I always said that I wanted to be a wife and a mother when I grew up but somewhere along the way I decided I didn't want any children but instead wanted a life in a busy place like New York living the good life (at least that's what I thought back then).
My first marriage didn't work nor did my husband's first marriage. I guess that's a good thing for us considering we were each other's first loves and we dated in high school lol. I will be the first to admit that at times a blended family is the hardest thing in the world to have. Besides dealing with sometimes unreasonable ex-spouses, we also have to deal with children who are use to doing things one way and us all having to adapt to one another. We have taken it in stride and are doing alright in my opinion.
After my 4th child I had my tubes tied. After my husbad's 1st child he had the snip snip. Yes, I said he brought 2 children to our marriage. Our current baby was a total shock but an amazing little guy to say the least. One thing I have always regretted is not having a child with my husband and he has the same regret.
There are people who have rude things to say about the size of our family, they make assumptions that we are Mormon (nothing wrong with LDS) or that we adopted or that we are plain crazy so imagine what they are saying now that we are wanting to have reversals and add to our family?
You guessed it, "What the heck is wrong with you guys?" People think having a large family has got to be the worst thing ever. I mean really, everything must be total chaos but it so the opposite. Having a large family is the most amazing thing ever. You have 6 individuals who all have different personalities, different talents, they each are unique in their own way. In addition, it actually is much easier. We have the best times as a family. We play hard, we work hard, we talk through our issues and there is so much love to give one another that our house is overflowing with love.
Don't get me wrong, we have our challenges, our children butt heads, argue, disagree, challenge one another, it's not sunny all the time but like New Edition asks "Can you stand the rain"? and I can say that our family has learned to make it through the storms, take things in stride and make the best of it because we all understand that on the other side of this hurdle is a huge breakthrough and blessing from God.
There was a time I said I was done having kids and that I didn't want to deal with kids and now I want a job where I am around kids all the time. I want to add more children to this family and not that I want to be 19 and counting but I will be satisfied with whatever number God allows us after our success surgeries.